• Personal Growth

    Reflecting on 2018 and our year-long honeymoon

    After three years of dealing with the sickness and deaths of our mothers, 2018 was a year of transition. As I attempted to learn how to live our new normal—life without our mothers—I was faced with another type of loss, not one that elicited deep sorrow, but one toward which we had always been moving since my body opened up and deposited our babies into the world. In 2018, both of our adult children moved away from home—and not just across town in a minor show of independence—to different states and hundreds of miles away to make lives of their own. The path I had been traveling—my Nest Makeover—had reached…

  • Facebook Challenge, 2009-2019
    Personal Growth

    Thoughts on Facebook’s ‘How Hard Did Aging Hit You’ Challenge

    I don’t normally participate in Facebook games that make demands. I’m rebellious that way. But curiosity overpowered my sense of defiance. So I did it. I followed the fad. I had to see how I have changed.  The directive calls for comparing your first Facebook profile photo and your current one. Mine are 10 years apart, 2009 to 2019.  When I put my first and most recent photos side by side, my first thought was, “Dang, I look better now!” That made me start thinking about who I was and what I was going through back then. My life has changed so much and I’m in a better place than…

  • Clash of Concepts

    November 30 – Protect

    When a person starts a project like Clash of Concepts—a project that requires creativity, interesting stories and a touch of humor—the tendency may be to protect oneself from vulnerability. I’ve thought of this many times in the past month—wondering what people would think of me if I showed them what goes on in my head. I have written some pieces that I’m proud of and some that I should have censored. But it was important for me to be me on this journey—good, bad and ugly—and I definitely have shown you some ugly. The easy way out would have been to protect myself—and you—from the realness of what I have…