• Personal Growth

    Reflecting on 2018 and our year-long honeymoon

    After three years of dealing with the sickness and deaths of our mothers, 2018 was a year of transition. As I attempted to learn how to live our new normal—life without our mothers—I was faced with another type of loss, not one that elicited deep sorrow, but one toward which we had always been moving since my body opened up and deposited our babies into the world. In 2018, both of our adult children moved away from home—and not just across town in a minor show of independence—to different states and hundreds of miles away to make lives of their own. The path I had been traveling—my Nest Makeover—had reached…

  • Facebook Challenge, 2009-2019
    Personal Growth

    Thoughts on Facebook’s ‘How Hard Did Aging Hit You’ Challenge

    I don’t normally participate in Facebook games that make demands. I’m rebellious that way. But curiosity overpowered my sense of defiance. So I did it. I followed the fad. I had to see how I have changed.  The directive calls for comparing your first Facebook profile photo and your current one. Mine are 10 years apart, 2009 to 2019.  When I put my first and most recent photos side by side, my first thought was, “Dang, I look better now!” That made me start thinking about who I was and what I was going through back then. My life has changed so much and I’m in a better place than…

  • Clash of Concepts Revisited

    June 12: A Deteriorating State

    By Linda Margison Webster defines “deteriorate” in the following two ways: “to become worse or of less value” and “to lower in character, dignity, or quality.” I can’t help but connect those definitions to the current state of our world, a place where progress, civility, acceptance, and hope caught a foothold and started to rise, but then was ambushed by an arrogant, racist, misogynistic, and greedy sect that hoisted its king and slid on its hood, rolling back unity and harmony in the name of patriotism, gun rights, and a bastardized view of religion. The more we instruct children to avoid being killed instead of telling gunmen not to kill,…